Friday, January 18, 2013

Food Is Not My Enemy.

I heard/saw two things this week that really struck me.  First, was a friend who made the following statement:

"I' went to the gym for two hours today... I
 ate cookies yesterday, and this felt like the appropriate punishment."

Then I saw another friend (who is already a size 2, at most) post a picture of an emaciated-looking actress with the comment that she had put this picture on her dream wall as her goal body.

And it all kind of hit me-- the pressure that we put on ourselves as women to look a certain way.  And it made me so sad.  

Don't get me wrong-- I know that there are things we all wish we could change.  I certainly would like to lose a few pounds.

But I don't want to go through my life hating myself and what I see in the mirror.  And I don't want to make food my enemy.  I want to exercise more and eat better.  Not starve myself or feel the need to punish myself for small indulgences.

I think it's wonderful when people change their habits to become healthier-- I'm certainly trying to do the same.  And I celebrate with women who reach their goals, whatever they may be.

But I think we need to change our attitudes about body image and food.  Focus on being healthy and less on what we see in the mirror.  Stop seeing food as the villain and more as our fuel.  And just start loving ourselves more.


  1. Ah thank you for this! I am at my goal weight now but wish I good lose just a few more pounds. I love food and do a good job of sticking to the 80/20 rule, but the body image thing is always an issue I think...

  2. Love this post! I think it's unhealthy to set unrealistic expectation and beat yourself up if you splurge. I think the best part of healthy living is being able to have those splurge moments every once in a while because you deserve it!

    Loved this: "But I think we need to change our attitudes about body image and food. Focus on being healthy and less on what we see in the mirror. Stop seeing food as the villain and more as our fuel. And just start loving ourselves more."

    AMEN. Being healthy is mostly about giving yourself a bright future. I don't want to be on five different medications and bedridden and on disability when I am 55.

  3. Great post Katie! I think you nailed this one. We would all like things changed...that is human nature, but being healthy should be something we are proud about. This was refreshing :-)

  4. I LOVE this post!! It's so true. Society tells us what we are "supposed" to look like and we've fallen victim to that, myself included. I think we are ALL beautiful (I mean, let's face it, we are hotties). :) I think I'll go ahead and have that milkshake at lunch now... :)

    Love ya girl!

  5. Don't you just wish you could kick society in the butt?

    I've never been super skinny, in fact the past 7 years are the "skinniest" I've ever been just because I turned my life around by working out more, eating better, etc. I have a scale, I use it on occasion but I judge by my clothes and how I feel day by day. Sure, I dream of things but I am in reality and it won't ever be like that. We are perfect the way we are!

    I have a friend who you might have seen on Dateline or 20/20 for the project she did recently. Check out her site: I can honestly say I didn't know some of her story when we were back in HS but she's quite an inspiration.

  6. i agree entirely. even though i do have a picture of myself when i was a size 0 on my mirror. but. i'm not starving myself to get there.

  7. I'm so glad you wrote this - you're so right. And I feel the same way. I've lost alot of weight over the last few years and I still have a ways to go but I've learned to be really careful not to 'hate' things about myself even in the process.

  8. I agree. I just don't know how to do this. I am just learning to tune out the negative voice and I am 42 years old. I have spent me entire life...all of it, hating my body and feeling ashamed. Thank you for reminding me to look at the positive and not the negative...again.

  9. Yeeeeessss! I certainly haven't had a "healthy" relationship with food, but it kills me when I see women punish themselves for eating a cookie or something similar. Sure, I want to lose 5-10 pounds, but I'm not going to starve myself in order to do it. That's not healthy either!! It just blows my mind....

  10. I totally agree! As a teacher, I am beginning to see girls as young as 10 worrying about food. It is so sad. What's even worse is that I can't ever see a time when relationships with food will be normal.


  11. GIRL. You weren't kidding when you said this was like my post lol. I am 100% in agreement with you :)

  12. Awesome post!!! I think most people see being skinny as healthy, and that is simply not the case. I want to be healthy...not skinny, and I will NEVER punish myself for what I eat.

  13. This is really a great post. There are so many people who struggle with self-esteem issues, and that needs to be fixed.